Delulu is The Only Solulu: Transforming Your Mindset and Confidence on Your Journey to Achieve Goals

I have a thing about me. My closest friends and family all know this about me. In fact, any time I start a sentence with "So, I did something" or "I had this thought".......they know something new is coming.

I always have a brand new idea spinning around in my head and I am delusional enough to try and make a go of it. My friends think I am crazy, but they still support my crazy ass.

Let's be real. I probably am a little bit crazy. But that is okay by me because sometimes, delulu is the only solulu.

I am confident and I choose to step out and try new things.

That doesn't mean that I am never afraid. In the past few years, I have taken some risks that have left a lot of people scratching their heads in bewilderment, trying to figure out if I will succeed or crash and burn. I have had several wonderful, well-meaning, and loving conversations with friends and family about my love affair with risk taking and impulsivity.

I just really believe that what I embark on will work. So I go all in.

Believe in yourself. Choose yourself.

People will think you are crazy. They will regularly make remarks about your ideas and your dreams. They may not call you crazy to your face, but they may be thinking it and chatting with others behind your back about it. The root of it all is that they are too afraid to do what YOU are choosing to do.

They aren't willing to step out of themselves, their environment, their false sense of security in order to go after what it is they really want. They are willing to mold themselves and behave in a society that tells women they need to be nice, be pretty and be quiet. To play by the rules and not cause a ruckus or make any waves.

No. Thank. You.

You heard the saying "Well-behaved women rarely make history"? Well, I want you to embrace that. Embrace the delulu. Choose to be a woman who tells herself a different narrative than what is being written. If you want to change your world, your family, your finances, your life.....you are going to have to be crazy enough to believe it can be done.

And then even crazier for doing it.

If you need a little motivation, check out this list of women who have challenged the norms and changed the world. Some of these women were even part of changing laws! They set the trail for us and showed us that if they can do it, we can do.

Maybe you aren't looking to change the whole world, or even change government, but you are interested in change for good. You have to transform your mindset and grab ahold of some audacity. Surround yourself with friends who will encourage you and not hold you back from being your full self and going after your dreams.

Grab a package of post-it notes and write affirmations on them. Post them around your workspace and in your home (wherever you will see them). Words have power and they can influence your mood, day and confidence.

Schedule a dream building session/creativity board night with your fellow DBBs and create a dream board and don't hold back. Pop open that bottle of sparkling, have some yummy snacks and a little brain food (to stir the creativity), and go all out. What do you envision for yourself and put that all out there.

Be mindful of who and what you are taking in. Social media, negative voices, stressful environments can all play a part in diffusing our confidence and cause us to stall as we pursue our dreams. If you find yourself taking in visuals and words that seem to harm you rather than help you, perhaps a little house cleaning is in order. It is okay to move on from things and relationships that you may have outgrown.

The title of this post states that being delusional is the only solution, but it is all tongue in cheek. What I want to drive home to you is this: Crazy is really in the eye of the beholder. You aren't really crazy. You are just brave. Creative. You think outside of the box and you are willing to take on the risk that others aren't ready to take. That doesn't make them bad and you good (and vice versa). It just means that everyone is on their own path. You have to blaze your own trail and I want to encourage you to go after it with gusto!

Embrace the delulu. Building our dreams is supposed to be fun and truthfully, I think I feel like I am going a little crazy at times. I do believe, however, that this is all worth it. It will be worth it. I believe it will be worth it for all of you.

You just have to be crazy enough to believe it.

Your DBB,

Tiffany Rhea